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A season of shock is expected after disclosure and is the first hurtle to jump after any type of betrayal is revealed. We feel betrayed because we believed that person incapable of their stunning behavior and their lack of concern for how it impacts our life.

During my season of shock I faded in and out of reality. For a while I was in such pain, I could barely eat, sleep, or function beyond my work schedule. Unable to grasp how my life ever got so complicated, I lived in a world of disbelief. I told myself this couldn’t be happening and found moments of peace. They did not last. This normal reaction is called shock.

You too may find yourself in this place; here are a few helpful tips to help you endure this first most agonizing phase. Please believe you will not always feel as you do today.


I knew I was beyond this stage when I could fully accept the fact I could never go back to the way things were. I didn’t like the truth of my circumstances, but I was ready to tackle the future. Numbness no longer replaced emotion. I emerged from that protective state of denial ready to deal with the plethora of decisions ahead. I left shock behind, only to find that facing my reality meant facing the grief and anger within. We will continue next week with the subject of grief.