TAKE CONTROL!
Thanks to a rather blunt email I received regarding a recent blog, I have my topic for today.
The topic involves the concept of taking control of one’s life and what that might look like.This reader who was obviously in deep pain caused from betrayal, asked me a few valid questions.
- Why would I open my life and speak freely on a very personal family matter (adultery)?
- Why would I broadcast and humiliate my family in this manner?
- How could I believe in a God who does not look out for me?
- Why wouldn’t I just take control of my life?
Firstly, I know that being open does not fit everyone’s personality and there is no harm in keeping things private. However, the circumstances surrounding our situation became very public. After I healed and felt much stronger I believed God wanted me to be transparent and honest for the soul purpose of helping others. It is not a woe-is-me account, or a pity party, it is a way in which to identify with others who are in the middle crisis. The reader is not left wondering if I understand their situation, but it is not left there...they are pointed toward healing, happiness and a life of joy.
I would never write these deeply personal blogs without the blessing of both my husband and my grown children. They encourage my honesty and embrace the reason I write about such a painful season of my life. Our family believes that the pain should NOT be wasted. Something good can come out of something so difficult by helping others find healing through the power of Jesus Christ.
Secondly, God did not create the betrayal that happened in my marriage, in fact all sin deeply saddens Him, but because He is all-knowing He knew it was going to happen. He also knew His love and power would heal my deepest wounds and give me strength to NOT become a hard, embittered woman. How different this response is compared to living a life burdened with unforgiveness, bitterness, and perpetual anger. I know because I lived that way for a season and it was sheer torture.
Lastly, on the subject of control, many feel this is done by kicking the offender to the curb, or shutting down their emotions to ensure they do not get hurt again. This type of control leads to a life full of anger, bitterness and low self-esteem. Healing cannot grow in the contaminated soil of hatred.
Conversely, choosing to manage the pain of betrayal God’s way facilitates healing and gives all the control a person needs. Whether the marriage survives (depending on the willingness for change on all fronts), or the marriage dies, healing is needed and independent of either scenario. God promises to heal the broken-hearted either way. Psalm 147:3
I make no apologies for pointing every reader to the healing power of Jesus Christ, but do respectfully acknowledge this may be a foreign concept to many. Please email me directly if you have questions about how to turn to God for help, or if you desire to learn more about how you too can heal.
Who controls the ocean,
orchestrates the tides,
and sets the sun behind its rim?
The same God who can bring healing to your tortured soul!
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About the author
Blossom Turner is an award-winning novelist, and a free-lance writer published in Chicken Soup and Kernels of Hope anthologies, and former newspaper columnist on health and fitness. A Word Guild semi-finalist for Anna's Secret, Katherine's Arrangement, Amelia’s Heartsong, and a Word Guild winner for Best Romance for Lucinda’s Defender. She has found her home in the writing of historical fiction but is open to wherever God leads. The many 5-star reviews attest to the power of love and romance authentically woven into the Shenandoah Bride Series about five sisters and their five love stories.
Blossom lives in British Columbia, Canada, with her husband, David, of forty years and their dog Lacey named after Lacey Spring, Virginia, where this series takes place. A former businesswoman, personal trainer, and mother of two grown children she is now pursuing her lifelong dream of writing full-time. A hopeless romantic at heart, she believes all story should give the reader significant entertainment value. However, her writing embodies the struggles of real life. She infuses the reality of suffering with the hope of Christ to give a healthy dose of relatable encouragement to her reader. Her desire is to leave the reader with a yearning to live for Christ on a deeper level, or at the very least, create a hunger to seek for more.
Co-author Suzie Zanewhich
Suzie is a certified life coach, leader of emotional health, and resource specialist. She has found her niche as a soul coach.
Suzie finds purpose in empowering individuals to move towards growth, healing, and alignment with their authentic self. Suzie is driven by a calling to live authentically, as the person God created her to be, to reach her fullest potential and lead others to do the same. Her passion is to help others find meaning through discovering their strengths, gifts, personality, temperament and core values.
Suzie is a life-long learner, continuously immersing herself in new courses to learn more about human behaviour, relationships, psychology, child development, emotions, trauma and healing. Because of her craving to always learn more she has earned the title of resource specialist in the area of self-discovery.
Suzie Zanewich lives with her husband in Winnipeg, Manitoba, Canada. She has a patchwork family of four grown children, two daughters, two sons and three granddaughters.
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