To Heal or Replace? That is the Question.
If you want to have a happy future, it lies not in a new man, or woman, but in a decision to heal. I sum up this message on how to heal in an acronym.
H – is for Hope. Proverbs 13:12 says, “Hope deferred makes the soul sick.” NIV We must keep the faith, keep the hope, and believe in a better tomorrow. I promise you will not always hurt like you do today. This may be hard to believe today, but it is the truth. God will heal your broken heart.
E – is for effective communication with our healer Jesus. Psalm 147:3 promises, “He (God) heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” Effective communication encompasses reading the Bible, along with inspirational devotions such as http://christiandevotions.us/ , and encouraging blogs such as Ann Voscamp's blog on thankfulness http://www.aholyexperience.com/ann-voskamp/. Also, never stop praying…cry out to God daily and release your sorrow to Him, for He understands betrayal. Read Matthew 26 and reacquaint yourself with the Jesus who understands your sorrow.
A – Avoid replacement. A quick fix to a betrayed, struggling soul is another relationship. The power of distraction and complimentary accolades feels like balm on an open wound, but keeps you away from focusing on healing. Yes, replacement temporarily lessens the pain, but problems deep within such as low self-esteem, trust issues, bitterness, unforgiveness, among others, remain. They will surface when the honeymoon phase of this new relationship fades.
L – is for Love. God is love. God will not fail you as mere mortals do. Lamentations 3:17-26 became one of my go-to Scriptures. The message is a powerful message on hope and God’s great love for me. Joshua 1:5 encourages,"Be strong and courageous. Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go." NIV What a lovely truth, to know and believe that God will never leave nor forsake, nor will He betray. Instead He loves extravagantly, and heals completely.
To place healing as a priority ensures a future where relationship is possible, either in the restoration of your marriage or in a new relationship. Conversely an unhealed soul will present trust issues, bitterness, unforgiveness, etc. In other words the past will rule the future.
Choose the road of healing today. Though it may be a slow and often difficult process, the benefits are amazing. Put H.E.A.L. into practice and you will have found the secret to complete healing. Daily place these good decisions one upon another and you will find your way to where pain, sorrow, bitterness, anger, unforgiveness, envy and mistrust, no longer rule your life.
What a glorious day to wake up and realize that not only is healing possible, but that it has come to fruition. I know first hand because I have walked that road from dark, dark days into the sunshine, and I know you can too.
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About the author
Blossom Turner is an award-winning novelist, and a free-lance writer published in Chicken Soup and Kernels of Hope anthologies, and former newspaper columnist on health and fitness. A Word Guild semi-finalist for Anna's Secret, Katherine's Arrangement, Amelia’s Heartsong, and a Word Guild winner for Best Romance for Lucinda’s Defender. She has found her home in the writing of historical fiction but is open to wherever God leads. The many 5-star reviews attest to the power of love and romance authentically woven into the Shenandoah Bride Series about five sisters and their five love stories.
Blossom lives in British Columbia, Canada, with her husband, David, of forty years and their dog Lacey named after Lacey Spring, Virginia, where this series takes place. A former businesswoman, personal trainer, and mother of two grown children she is now pursuing her lifelong dream of writing full-time. A hopeless romantic at heart, she believes all story should give the reader significant entertainment value. However, her writing embodies the struggles of real life. She infuses the reality of suffering with the hope of Christ to give a healthy dose of relatable encouragement to her reader. Her desire is to leave the reader with a yearning to live for Christ on a deeper level, or at the very least, create a hunger to seek for more.
Co-author Suzie Zanewhich
Suzie is a certified life coach, leader of emotional health, and resource specialist. She has found her niche as a soul coach.
Suzie finds purpose in empowering individuals to move towards growth, healing, and alignment with their authentic self. Suzie is driven by a calling to live authentically, as the person God created her to be, to reach her fullest potential and lead others to do the same. Her passion is to help others find meaning through discovering their strengths, gifts, personality, temperament and core values.
Suzie is a life-long learner, continuously immersing herself in new courses to learn more about human behaviour, relationships, psychology, child development, emotions, trauma and healing. Because of her craving to always learn more she has earned the title of resource specialist in the area of self-discovery.
Suzie Zanewich lives with her husband in Winnipeg, Manitoba, Canada. She has a patchwork family of four grown children, two daughters, two sons and three granddaughters.
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