There is therapeutic value in releasing pain. The following is a positive example on how to do this.When in the midst of my personal storm, our pastor gave a sermon on the fact the Bible does not skirt around the issue of disappointment and sorrow. He invited all those who were in pain to take time to read the Psalms, Job, Lamentations and find comfort that though life was hard, God was present. H...

Mandisa wrote and sung a very inspiring song that really helped me during my healing process. I pray this song will minister to your broken heart as it did to mine. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cyy7K0e__x4

Two months after the truth of betrayal in my marriage, I wrote these words in my journal.  January 20, 2007 Do I love him?I can’t lie to myself. How can I say I love David when loving a husband means I respect him, I’m proud of him, I want to protect his name, I trust him… and not one of these qualities are present? There is a conflict that rages within…One of years together, good memories, raisin...

This video is graphic using scenes from the Passion of Christ, but it powerfully displays the fact God not only understands our betrayal but will heal our pain.http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7psceANMWgwThank you Jeremy Camp for using your gifts and talent to honor God with this song.

Are we there yet? A couple months after the truth came out about David’s infidelity he asked me a question in our counseling session. How far are you along in the healing process?In truth I wanted to bob him, I felt about as healed as a gangrene infected wound. How could he even broach that subject?The following journal entry tells the story.January 30, 2007 David was visibly saddened in counselin...

 “He that conceals his grief finds no remedy for it.” Turkish Proverb Much like Dorothy in the Wizard of Oz...I just wanted to find my way home. The grief that consumed me, felt unnatural, unreal...like a bad dream.Grief is expected when someone dies, but rarely considered in other circumstances. Yet every person who experiences betrayal of any sort, must grieve in order to heal. It took me a...

Happy Canada Day! Happy Fourth of July!  Canada, United States, Australia...where ever we live, if we have the privilege to speak, write and worship in freedom, we are blessed.For those of you who can barely manage life…and celebration of any sort is difficult, please read Wednesday’s upcoming blog.For today, I need to rest. To laugh. To have fun in the sun, so excuse my short conversational ...

Blessed Be His Name - Always? My husband and I married with dreams of going into the ministry, but merely two years later, through a set of difficult circumstances my husband turned away from God.  Subsequently I prayed for the next twenty-three years for his return to faith. Just after our twenty fifth wedding anniversary I learned of his affair.Did I ever imagine years of prayer would culminate ...

A Journal Entry Here is a journal entry a year after finding out about betrayal in my marriage. I had come a long way, but the healing was not yet complete.If you have ever wondered how God speaks to us in this day and age, here is a wonderful example. God, through His Word, spoke on a day I really needed to hear His voice and receive encouragement and wisdom. October 4, 2008 I woke up early and m...

Can you see the wind? Today I went for a walk. Not because I needed one after a crazy busy workday, but because my dog Lyla did.A simple truth blew across my mind. God is much like the unseen force of the wind.I could not see the gale that ripped up through the valley, but I could feel it. My hair streamed behind and whipped back across my face as I turned my head to throw the ball for Lyla.The wa...

Life most definitely has a little Snap, Crackle and Pop. I’ve got the snap thing going on all too well. I come home exhausted from an over-time shift and all I want to do is snap at anyone that gets in my way of that couch.The crackle, or the crack in an otherwise sparkling façade, or the fact I’m over-loaded on the verge of cracking up…all fit.Pop-that’s the part of me that feels like I have soda...

HERE IS A BEAUTIFUL PRAYER TO PRAY WHEN YOU ARE WEARY, WORN AND WORDLESS Written by St. Francis of Assisi      Lord, make me an instrument of Thy peace;Where there is hatred, let me sow love;Where there is injury, pardon;Where there is doubt, faith;Where there is despair, hope;Where there is darkness, light;And where there is sadness, joy.O Divine Master,Grant that I ...

God if you are the Sun, then I want to be the Moon! A favorite song writer/singer of mine, Phil Wickham, wrote a song called “Sun and Moon,” with these amazing words referring to God… "If you are the sun, then I want to be the moon,I want to reflect the light that shines from you.” These words conjure a depth of thinking within my soul that inspires yet drops me to my knees. I want to reflect...

HERE IS AN EMAIL FROM MY SISTER IN THE MIDST OF MY TURMOIL, NOT LONG AFTER BETRAYAL HIT MY MARRIAGE.MAY THIS EMAIL WRITTEN TO ME...GIVE YOU DEAR HURTING SOUL THE SAME ENCOURAGEMENT IT GAVE ME!Hope is like a spring Sunflower - It pops up with the first touch of sun (The Son!)Dearest Blossom, (Place your own name here.)I've been pondering the idea of faith and hope and how intricately they intertwin...

Life has taken an unexpected turn. I am currently thrust into full time work at a doctor’s office. The money will be a blessing, but the gift of precious time severely restricted.Happier times once again!I look at this opportunity with a purpose in mind…there is reason God has presented this job. Not one thing happens by chance, therefore I open my eyes. I wait. I pray. I listen.This job dictates ...

I pray  you will find encouragement today …in that deepest part of your aching spirit. May a message of hope be found in these following verses.Isaiah 35:1-6 The desert and the parched land will be glad: the wilderness will rejoice and blossom. Like the crocus, it will burst into bloom: it will rejoice greatly and shout for joy. …Strengthen the feeble hands, steady the knees that give way; say to ...

Like me you may wonder how you did not know that betrayal lived right beneath your nose. It is a reasonable question.Why didn’t I know? How did I miss the signs? What could I have done differently?Second-guessing myself became a perpetual thought process in the aftermath. I wanted to understand how adultery happened even while I blissfully believed I had a great marriage, great sex life, and great...

Spring—that time of year when trees blossom, bluebirds sing, and buttercups burst forth through darkened soil. A feeling of renewed hope fills most every heart…most every heart perhaps—except for yours?Yes, I’ve been there… in that place where not even buttercups, bluebirds, or blossoming trees evoke hope. I have lived in the dark, though full sunshine streams down. I have felt abject loneliness, ...